By Leah Kabaseke
They say we are who we are because of the decisions we make.
Things don’t get done unless you decide to act on them.
Many times we have a whole lot to carry out and long to-do lists but the question is, how do you cross off things from your to-do list? What do you have to prioritize?
Well, sometimes we have to choose whether or not to change our priorities or stick to the flow.
We have families, friends, and relatives but again, we all have our own goals, dreams, and relationships to sustain.
To test our priority consciousness, we paint a picture of a friend who shows up at your hostel and finds you in the middle of finalizing on your course work. He or she asks, would you like to come with me right now? it is a Mega Campus bash, you can’t afford to miss out.
Whether you tag along or not, is a test of self-actualization.
Here are some of the things you need to think about in such situations;
1. What is stressing me out the most?
2. Do I have time?
3. what do I need for a moment?
4. What do I need to do to keep my relationships with others strong and sustainable?
Because frankly, that’s important too. we’ve all once heard that relationships are a two-way street and this is so true.
If one party is continuously reaching out, what do you expect to happen?
What if I tell you today that there is a way of balancing things to not sacrifice your deadlines or mental health to hang out with friends while also maintaining relationships?
It’s all about how you respond but what do you say if you plan to object, I don’t have time?
Explain your other priorities instead of giving a vague ‘’ I am too busy’’ reply then give a follow-up of when you would like to meet that person
For example;
I would love to but I have to finish (mention a task) how about tomorrow or some other time. Be polite but asserive.
I also encourage you to say yes if you want to. say yes when your mental health needs it and when you have time.
Work, school, and life balance are possible but it requires candid conversations, clear communication, and dedication to make it happen.
Working hard is good but you have to prioritize your health.
Find time to be with your family, they are the ones who will be there for you in your darkest days.
As you engage books, give priority to yourself, love yourself because it has long been overdue. Most importantly, refocus on your academic goals.
